Thursday, June 13, 2013

Divorce, children and making decisions

So, one of the hardest things about divorce and sharing children is deciding where to live.  If you are lucky like me, your ex will be accommodating and you will have an easy working relationship. I know this is not always the case though.  Unfortunately, even if you do have a great working relationship it is not that easy.  Options become very limited in where you can live depending on how often you actually want to see the child. 

If you live in the same city as the child's other parent, you are able to see them more.  Take our arrangement, I have my daughter the first half of the week, my ex has her the second half.  Been this way since she was little.

But then if i were to move further away it could put a serious crimp in my ability to see her as much as I would like.  Depending on where she decided to go to school, I could end up only seeing her on weekends.  If I am too far, it may be less than that. 

Would I be able to live with that?  No, she is my baby and I don't think I could survive not watching her growing up.  So that leaves me with only one choice.

So now I put this question out there.  What would you be willing to do in this situation?  Would you be willing to risk losing your child to live somewhere else or would you stay close to them so you can hold on?

Monday, May 13, 2013

To All the Skinny Girls

So more and more lately you are seeing these images of robust women with titles of "Real Women Have Curves" or "Real Women Are Not Twigs" and here you are a young lady that is quite thin.  Not because you are dieting, or bulimic or anything like that, but because you were born with a high metabolism.  You just cannot gain weight, no matter how hard you try.  I have been there.

Growing up I was always the "twiggy girl" that for the life of me could not put on weight.  I would binge eat for days at a time, sit on my ass and not gain a pound.  I tried desperately to put on weight, I wanted to be one of the girls with the beautiful curves that the boys always went after, but it wasn't happening.

I always ended up the "pal" or "good friend" of the boys I liked because they always saw me as "one of the boys."  And why not, I mean I was always small chested, flat bottomed, thin and lanky. 

I had my crew that I spent most of my time with, and yes I finally met my first love in high school.  He was actually interested in me, as more than a friend!  It was amazing, and I did everything I could to make him happy.  Eventually we split up, he moved on, life went on.

I had a couple other boyfriends in high school but none of them lasted.  They all seemed to leave for one of the better figured females.  I really began to wonder if there truly was something wrong with me.

And then one day I realized there was something wrong with me, I did not believe in myself.  So what if I barely filled an A cup, so what if I wasn't a fat bottomed girl, I an compassionate, and I know how to love!  I do not need boobs to make someone happy.

Do not judge someone by their size, be it thin or overweight.  Do not think that just because they do not fit the Barbie doll basis of beautiful that they are not worth your time.  Your ignorance and mistreatment could be the final straw that sends that poor person to commit suicide, or do something else that they will regret for the rest of their lives.

Get to know them, you might be surprised.  Love is not about the physical, it's about the emotional.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

It's been a while since I have ranted...

So everyone has been talking about how wonderful it is to have a tablet so I started looking into them.  Yes, okay...they are pretty darn cool.  So now I start seriously considering one, unfortunately I cannot seem to find one that fits my specific parameters.
  1. No Windows 8 Yes, I know that Windows 8 was pretty much designed for Tablets but it sucks donkey butt and I really do not want to have to deal with it.
  2. Microsoft Office I use Office for everything I do, so it is a definite requirement. No Office, no deal.
  3. External Keyboard No, I do not mean an attached one like a laptop, I mean either a wireless one or one that connects to it so that when I have an inspiration and want to write something down I can do it easily.
  4. Swappable Batteries A spare battery would be bliss when going on trips where I may not be able to plug in when the battery gets low.
I am really not asking for a whole lot, just something that fits my needs and desires and will make me happy.  Is that too much to ask for?