I know this is one I will need input on, because there are so many reasons out there. I can only come up with the ones I've experienced or witnessed first hand. The many reasons we "fall out of love" with each other.
Lies. This is one that can start with a little white lie, but sometimes those little lies begin to add up and turn into bigger ones. Don't lie to your partner. No matter how much you think the truth hurts, a lie will hurt even more when it comes out. Be truthful with the one you love from the beginning. If you have already told them lies, bring the truth out, tactfully. A lie will come between the two of you in more ways than you can imagine. You have to realize that it will always be eating away at your conscience, until one day you will have to let it out and end the self punishment. Why let it get to that?
Physical attraction. Sadly this is a major issue in relationships. If you are not physically attracted to the person you are with anymore, one of two things will occur, you either work past it, helping them return to the way they were when you first met, or you leave them. Personally, I think it is sad that a pure and loving relationship can break up over a few extra pounds, or a few less strands of hair. Have we become so shallow that we fail to see the inner beauty that attracted us to our lovers to begin with? Why does society feel the need to instill the "Barbie and Ken" image of what your ideal partner should look like upon us? They do not exist, and if they do, it's fake! The next time you feel less attracted to your lover, look into their eyes, deeply, and remember why you love them.
Routines. Did you ever notice that you get into a relationship and after time you fall into the same old routines? This is a major issue with sex. Many couples feel that if you have been together for a while, there's nothing new you can experience. Or maybe you fall into a comfortable rut. This does not have to happen though. You can spice up your lives, especially your love lives. Take a weekend get away; explore each other as if you were just meeting. Look into new things to try, like the Kama Sutra or toys. Shower together, washing each other's body's from head to toe. A scalp massage during a shampoo is wonderful. Always make sure to make time for each other.
Jealousy. This is one I really can't give much advice about because I've been known to be a very jealous person. All I can say is, if you are feeling jealousy, you need to look deeper into the relationship. There's a reason we all feel jealousy, and it's not always 100% the other person. Sometimes you feel jealousy because you don't have trust in them, sometimes because you don't have trust in yourself.
Addictions like drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. This can get in the way of even the best relationship. Addictions are a difficult thing, and can be worked through if you want to, but if you don't you might as well kiss your loved one goodbye. If you refuse to give up whatever is coming in the way, then just cut your partner free. Making a person stay by you as you throw your life away is the cruelest thing you can do. Even those addictions you may think are harmless can hurt your partners self esteem or trigger bad childhood memories. Be considerate.
Finances. This is a major one in today's society. When money's tight it can be a serious strain on any relationship. I've watched many a marriage fall apart, or come real close; because one of them loses a job or bills get too high. Many forget one thing; money does not make the man (or woman.) So you do not have the money to live comfortably, which can change; don't throw away a relationship because of it. That's the time you need to come together and be strong, not push each other away, or blame each other.
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